Posted: 8/29/2014 | Relationships	Comments
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Do you allow yourself to be curious in the beginning stage of relationships?

How much do you know about the person you’re dating? Curiosity is a critical part of relationships. Asking questions in the beginning stages of dating helps you get to know that person and their values. Curiosity also helps long-term relationships remain fresh over the span of time. Learn about that here.

To ask or not to ask. When you first start seeing someone, do you ask a lot of questions? Do you allow yourself to follow your inner thoughts about what’s happening? Are you curious about his work, family, his favorite foods, movies she loves or hates, what she likes to do for fun or relaxation, and even their childhood memories? 

Take work for example. Whether he’s an investment banker or teacher, what does he actually do in his day? What are his challenges? Where does she hope to be in five years?

We don’t want the first date to feel like the Spanish Inquisition, but it’s very helpful to get a feel for this person. Not just the words they say but the expression behind the words.

Some people might feel that they are asking too much. Some might say that it feels impolite to ask such questions in the beginning of a relationship. It’s great to cut loose and have fun and it’s also great to get to know who you are spending time with. 

Notice if they ask you questions. Are they just talking about themselves or are they also interested in you?

Questions can grow or stop a new relationship. Being openly curious can help you decide early on if the person you’re dating is someone you would like to pursue a deeper relationship with. Or you might decide to stop investing more time with that person after discovering their values, goals, and their heart are in a different place than yours.

Pay attention to what you feel as you are with them. Are you excited, and being with them feels like being home, or is it strained? If it feels strained, are relationships usually tense for you at first or are you sensing something’s not quite right?

How have you been curious in the first few dates? What did you learn? Your comments make a difference for us all.

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