What’s wonderful about human beings is that although we share many characteristics, everyone has individual vulnerabilities, strengths, and weaknesses. That being said, as a professional I can see certain kinds of patterns accompanying certain kinds of problems.
Here are 5 characteristics, habits, or common threads that I’ve seen shared among women who have been cheated on in serious relationships.
1. Not asking smart questions can set you up for trouble. Feel free to ask questions. It’s important to ask questions, not only for better communication but for a greater understanding of and knowledge about your partner, as well as the relationship. Some women might think it’s intrusive to ask where their partner has been or is going. But if a question comes to mind in a relationship, please ask it. If your partner hesitates in answering, there may be a reason. You need to know, and have a right to understand why.
2. Believing it’s your fault. Difficulties arise in relationships, which we need to look at and take responsibility for our part in. Yet know that when something happens, it’s not always your fault. If your partner starts blaming you for everything, something is off. If you find yourself apologizing when he did something wrong, this is a red flag.
3. Not having clear boundaries. Healthy boundaries are part of a healthy relationship. So keep clarifying boundaries within your relationship. If he’s out after a certain time, do you want him to call and let you know where he is and the time you can expect him?
4. Keeping your relationships the same as they were in high school. Make sure your ideas about relationships, and how they work, keep growing and developing as you get older. Many of the ways we handled relationships in high school don’t really work that well in adult relationships.
5. You always end up with cheaters. This pattern can be changed, but will require you looking into your past to find the solution to this serious problem. Please seek professional counseling.
Have you known people who had this trouble? Please share your thoughts. Your comments make a difference for us all.
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