Posted: 8/18/2016 | Q&A Relationships	Comments
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Question: #relationshipgoals is a tag often used on social media. What is one actual "relationship goal" that you would recommend all couples work toward?

Dr. Howard's Reply:

If all couples decided to deeply get to know themselves individually, meaning their own inner world of motivations, thoughts, feelings, and personal programming so to speak, their relationships would go so much smoother. First, if we understand what is happening when we have a reaction to someone or some interaction, and then learn the skills of navigating what is coming up inside, the result is that life in general becomes so much easier. If we develop the ability to self-soothe, calm our inner reactive storms, and validate ourselves, then really hearing, understanding, and validating our loved ones, all become more possible.  These skills allow for both our needs and the needs of our partner to be seen, heard, and incorporated into a happy healthy relationship.