Posted: 2/11/2014 | Personal Development	Comments
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Interestingly, Valentine’s Day or the Feast of Saint Valentine started as a religious celebration for one of the early Christian saints. It was only in the Middle Ages that it began to become connected with romance and lovers expressing their love to each other.

Even though close to 60 million people will be alone on Valentine’s Day, according to CNN, the total spending on Valentine’s Day will be $18.6 billion. That’s a lot of cards, candy, and flowers!

ABC’s The Chew quoted that it is men who fear being alone the most on the Day. They said, “According to a recent Harris poll, 25% of men said they would rather have a root canal than spend Valentine’s Day alone. Shockingly, only 16% of women said the same.”

How is it that so many will be alone? There could be many reasons. Someone could be widowed or lost their longtime partner. Perhaps someone is single because they continue getting into difficult relationships or they have trouble connecting with people because of their personal history. Maybe they’ve come from a difficult or dysfunctional family and have found relationships very hard and/or haven't found a partner, yet, willing to do the work necessary to create a healthy relationship. Then, for them being alone is the right choice for now.
 
Maybe for someone right now, being alone could be the smartest choice. We all need to be true to ourselves.

Maybe someone doesn’t want to be with a life partner. If they’re not longing for a partner, that’s fine.

Others might have ideas about how you need to live. It’s your life. Please don't let others ever shame you into doing something that’s not right for you.
 
What’s most important is that we are conscious of our choices. We can be happy anywhere we are if we choose to be. You can enjoy and value your friendships, find activities that feel great to you, and create the life that feeds your soul. The truth is that you need to learn how to do that whether you’re single or in a couple. We are all responsible for our own happiness.
 
If you really do want someone in your life and you’re still single, begin or continue to look at the reasons for this. My book, Your Ultimate Life Plan might be helpful to further move through any blocks or fears that are stopping you. If you feel at a loss, sometimes having a trained eye can give you the insight you need. If that is the case, please seek the professional help you need to help you create what you are longing for.
 
So this Valentine’s Day whether you are alone, with a friend, groups of friends, a family member, or with someone you love, celebrate all the love and care you’ve had during your life.

Cheers! Here’s to you!!

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