Posted: 11/8/2013 | Personal Development	Comments
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In the Part 1 of this blog, we talked about the frustration of indecision, that emotional eddy that makes it difficult to move forward in life. This can be an enormously stressful state of mind that takes a great toll on our physical, mental and emotional well being.

We can begin breaking through this cycle by quieting the mind in meditation and asking for the answers we need, as well as taking a step in any direction, which creates movement and allows direction to become clearer. Here are 3 more ways to gain clarity:

3. Which feels better?

Here’s a great way to tap into your intuition quickly. Write down each option available to you on separate pieces of paper. When you’ve finished, pick up the first paper and read the option. Close your eyes and picture yourself moving in that direction, then write down the feelings and thoughts that came up as you imagined yourself making that choice. Do the same for each of the options you wrote down. Which option felt the best to you? Was there an option that didn’t feel good at all? Your intuition is telling you, via your emotions, which option is best for you.

4. Act without certainty, and be willing to make a mistake.

Often we feel indecisive because we believe the consequences of the wrong choice are dangerous. Our fear of making a mistake keeps us rooted in inertia. What if option 1 was better than option 2? What if we regret this choice forever? Remember that life isn’t a direct route from A to Z; it’s a delightful, circuitous route and is largely unpredictable.

We just can’t know where we will eventually end up, as much as we’d like to. Allowing yourself to make the wrong choice and releasing this anxiety frees you up to better hear your internal guidance, and sometimes the “wrong” choice turns out to be the best choice after all or leads us to the next right step.

5. Ask for help.

While it’s essential you tune into your own internal guidance and wisdom, sometimes the best next thing is to ask a trusted friend for help. You aren’t asking them to choose for you, but their objective, loving perspective can give you just the nudge you need to move one way or the other.

It’s like a friend standing outside your car, waving you in the right direction as you’re backing out of a ditch. It’s difficult to both drive and navigate. If you find that lack of clarity and indecision are really plaguing you, you might benefit from a great therapist or spiritual counselor. Sometimes an experienced and well trained guide will help you most.

We have inner wisdom available that can help guide us. Sometimes as we go inside the answer becomes clear quickly and sometimes we are guided to ask just the right person for help and support. The great news about aging is that if we choose to walk a conscious path, we grow better at listening to those inner cues and watching for signs. We can become more in tune with our unique internal guidance system, and spend less time in the quagmire of indecision.

Have you been stuck in indecision? What worked for you? Please share you comments. They make a difference for all of us!

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