Let’s face it, dating is hard. When you’re young it seems the world is teeming with great romantic candidates. As we grow older and more developed we become a little more particular. We have the experience to show us what works and what doesn’t, and to help us understand what we really need in a relationship. At any age, it takes courage to put your best foot forward and be in a new relationship. Why is it that so many flounder before they’ve left the gate?
Not all relationships can thrive. Circumstances can get in the way, along with poor timing, or just two people who felt an initial attraction but later realized they didn’t have enough in common. If you’ve had several relationships that don’t last or end too early, it’s time to take a look inside of you. So often we look “out there” for the reason. It might really seem true that women are all crazy, or men are all jerks. It’s easy to blame the other person, or our environment, even our mothers, rendering ourselves helpless, but the only way to make a difference is by focusing inwardly.
When we gather our courage and take a good look at ourselves, we come to recognize the limiting thoughts and beliefs that have kept romantic love at bay. You’ll be able to challenge inaccurate ideas you’ve been clinging to, become more curious about yourself and in time, create the relationship you really desire. As you get to know your emotional terrain the world of relationships become less of a mystery. You can love someone who loves you and sustain it, but it takes the willingness to stay present to your thoughts and feelings. Then you’re awareness is not just focused on the other person and your environment, but much more deeply within.
Even if your relationships have been going well, it’s important to practice going inside. Meditation, yoga, journaling, and so many other practices can help you tune into the vastness of who you really are. As you sort out your childhood programming, your fears and doubts, your inherited beliefs, and erroneous assumptions about relationships, you’ll begin to lower your barriers and allow real, emotional intimacy to occur. You’ll attract growing, healthy relationships that can really last.
Have you been a serial dater? Have you done the inner work you needed to find the relationship you really wanted? Please share your thoughts with us; your comments make a difference for us all!
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