For many people marriage begins with intoxicating love. We start out happy and harmonious, feeling passionate and optimistic about our futures together. But as our lives grow increasingly complex and stressful, our relationships begin to lose steam. We often stumble and fail to thrive together, blaming each other and our circumstances for our failures. How do we stay the course and keep our relationships growing and healthy? It begins with true intimacy.
True intimacy stems from our capacity to be fully conscious, present, and intimate within ourselves. As we nurture our hearts and minds, we expand our ability to be present and intimate with our partner. True intimacy kindles romance and deepens our connection in every dimension of being–physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually.
All relationships contain both joys and challenges. A happy, successful relationship requires the willingness to look honestly at ourselves. Since we fall in love with the best and the worst of our parents and/or caretakers, our intimate relationships can be a catalyst for tremendous growth if we’re willing to walk that path. Learning to listen and developing our adult empathic capacity along with our ability to self soothe are all essential to individual growth and a growing relationship.
Relationships fail when one or both people can’t or won’t do the work needed to have it thrive. At the very least, the relationship won’t reach its highest potential. When both people are willing to look deeply within themselves, as well as work together, the relationship grows richer and deeper.
Even in our complicated and stressful lives we can have relationships that work, and work well. A mutual commitment to growth and true intimacy not only keeps our relationships healthy, it keeps us healthy and growing, too.
How have you experienced True Intimacy? Please share. Your comments make a difference for us all.
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